Toy Box Revisited

By

Gerry Niskern

It’s nothing fancy. My toy box doesn’t resemble an animal, or even an interesting Pirate’s treasure chest. It is just a big plastic storage container with a lid and tiny wheels underneath for easy moving.

But, oh the wonders it contains! I got it to store the surprisingly fast accumulation of toys when my first grandkid arrived 48 years ago. The contents have changed over the years as objects were broken, proved uninteresting or a great new addition was stored there.

It is fun to sit back and watch as each new grandchild or visiting little dignitary explores the contents; which happens when they can crawl over and pull them selves up to peer in. The interest and approach to various toys is amazing, and is totally different with each kid.

I almost sent it on to St. Vincent’s de Paul along with other donations when my son said, “ you better hang on to that, you never know.” I’m glad I did. A smart little sixteen month old toddler enjoyed exploring the box recently. But of course, she had other territory to explore first. A complete inventory of the kitchen had to be taken and that required opening and shutting every door on the lower cupboards.Door knobs had to be tried. Bathrooms needed inspected.

I know sixteen month-olds can’t talk much, but they sure do understand what you are saying! When I suggested for her brother to come and I would show him where he could find the old toy box to drag out, she was dancing ahead of us and laughing with anticipation. She pulled out one dolly first, then another and finally a third. She was shocked to see the third had bright red nail polish on fingers and toes. Clearly, something was wrong and dolly # 3 was in big trouble! She proceeded to feed each one. This was accomplished by cramming her own little plastic dish down on their faces and then  wrapping them up in a blanket. When she was shown how, she was not interested in  cooking something for her babies on the little toy stove, even if the burners did turn curious bright red. Clearly a modern young woman!

The cars and stuffed animals were inspected briefly and tossed aside. Next out of the box came the Jack in the Box; probably everyone’s favorite and one of the oldest. When one great-grandson was a baby he was really afraid of Jack. He wanted me to crank it up, but then he would leap into my lap every time the music stopped and Jack suddenly popped up. My little visitor watched me crank the handle a couple of times, insisted on  turning it herself and then slammed the lid down on Jack and walked away.

When she pulled the tiny little wagon with wheels out of the toy box, she immediately tried to stand up in it. She then found it wouldn’t roll good enough on the carpet and moved it to the bare floor and put one foot in again and immediately fell on her keister. It was obvious that she thought it must be a skate board. When her brother showed her how to put one of the dolls in and pull it around by the cord, she loved it and put a few miles on it. Unlike previous toddlers she was always careful to look ahead and miss any obstacles that would tip it over.

She had fun visiting and exploring my old toybox, but she’ll never realize that I had much more fun watching her unique approach to everything she found!

“Coffee Time Downtown”

By

Gerry Niskern

How old were you when you had your first cup of coffee? You know, that forbidden drink that wasn’t good for you. Why, the caffeine would stunt your growth!

The brew we know as coffee has been around prior to 1000 A. D. In fact, the world’s first coffee shop actually opened in Constantinople in 1475. Back then, the Turkish law actually made it legal for a woman to divorce her husband if he failed to provide her with her daily quota of coffee.

Throughout the settling of the West, coffee provided people with their morning wake up call.  The farmers, cattlemen, prospectors and miners in Arizona bought their coffee in the whole berry form. Most groceries kept their coffee under the names of the countries in which it was grown. The bins containing the various berries were marked Java, Rio, Santos, Jamaica, Sumatra and so on.  The early settlers could smell and taste and make their choice. Some even carried the green berries, which you could roast at home to suit yourself.

The first activity in the morning in homes in early Phoenix, after the fire was built, was getting out the coffee grinder, filling the old black coffee pot with water and Arbuckle’s Ariosa ground coffee, for years the most popular brand around.  Of course, after it boiled a while, they threw in a couple of eggshells to settle the grounds.

In 1859, packaged Arbuckle’s sold for 15 cents a pound. For many years coupons for premiums came in the packages. The most popular item redeemed for the coupons by the cowboys in the West was wedding rings.

Many times coffee was used as a medium of exchange instead of money. The Indians of Arizona frequently buried a package of Arbuckle’s Ariosa with their dead to sustain them in the happy hunting grounds.

In the l920’s Arbuckle’s sold out to the General Foods Corporation, but as late as the l940’s the grocers in Phoenix, such as A J Bayless and Bashas were still selling the Arbuckles brand.

As early as the l920’s Phoenix Union High kids were hanging out at a place called the Coffee Pot.   That establishment, shaped like a giant coffee pot, was located at 7^th street and Mc Dowell. It was still in business in the l940s.  The coffee was hot, strong and guaranteed to keep you awake during afternoon Geometry class.

Long time residents will remember Donofrios on  Central where the office girls working downtown went for their morning coffee break; before businesses started having their own coffee machines in the office.  Many a business deal was sealed at Googies on the Northeast corner of Central Avenue and E. Van Buren. And of course, the state workers from the Capitol building enjoyed strolling over to Capitol Drugstore on the corner of Jefferson and 17^th Ave for their coffee breaks.

In downtown Phoenix today, the kids from Central high and Brophy go North to AJ’s for their designer coffee drinks to help  them face afternoon Latin class.

And of course, AJs Central location is perfect for the most important cup of all.  The traditional “get acquainted” coffee date to check out the new Internet acquaintance. Does the trick every time!

“Self Reliant or Self Centered?”

By

Gerry Niskern

That’s just what today’s parents need, more ways for children to make their demands known.  Now they are teaching the pre-talkers as young as six months to use sign language to convey their wishes. “Baby Signs” classes are available throughout the valley.

Shouldn’t children growing up in our complex society start learning early on that sometimes you wait for wishes to be granted, or heaven forbid, refused?  Where will today’s children learn patience, a needed virtue in today’s world, if not at home? Kids need to adapt themselves to our demanding environment and it’s imperative we help them by not granting every request.

Our affluent society has spawned a few generations of self-centered offspring.

It is now the birthday party season. When school starts, the “keeping up with the Jones’s” also begins.

Parents are laying out a few hundred dollars to rent a room at a resort so 8 year olds can hang out in between trips to the water slides and restaurants.  Some are taking twenty ten-year-old buddies of the birthday boy to play a few games at the paint ball facility.  It’s difficult, and you might like to refuse, but come on, “ everyone’s parents lets them do that”: everyone’s parents that are way cooler than you, of course.

A young mother I know, who grew up in another culture, expressed bewilderment at the elaborate guest prizes. “We’ve rented the mandatory jumping cage, hired clowns and magicians, but what is it with these expensive guest prizes?” she asked. Another mother mentioned elaborate tea parties for little girls who are expected to arrive in fancy dress, presided over by a hired hostess.

DJ parties just for fun that cost several hundred are prevalent among the junior hi set. When they get older the stakes are raised. High school kids parents rent a couple of vans and take all their friends to Disneyland for the weekend, all expenses paid, of course.

It is only natural that parents want their children to have more than they had. When both parents are working and under a lot of stress, sometimes they have to skimp on time. They try to make up for it with giving. The Center for the New American Dream that promotes simplified living believe this results in kids who are too focused on material things. Who is going to draw the line and acknowledge that even extravagant birthday parties are just another way of raising very self-centered kids? The special memories that parents hope to create are instead creating a sense of entitlement. The message children often get is that acquiring more will make them happy.

Of course, we all know that the commercialism that permeates our children’s world is very hard to control. Madison Avenue used to try to impress parents; now they have moved directly to kid marketing, leaving Mom out of it. Product images are everywhere on TV, not just commercials but with direct tie-in to shows.

The American Academy of Pediatrics is on record as saying it “believes advertising directed toward children is deceptive and exploits children under age 8”.

If you receive everything you want at age 9 or 10, how do you handle future disappointments in relationships and the workplace?

Most young parents would like to break the cycle and get back to simpler times, but who has the courage to go first? Could they begin with the sign for NO that parents could use and teach the pre-talkers?

Funny thing happened on the way to Surgery

By

Gerry Niskern

When I asked my PC doctor if he thought I was too old for knee surgery, he answered. “Oh I think you would do fine. You are a young 85!” Those are what is known as  “famous last words.”

You see, for quite a while I had had a left knee that was killing me every time Iwalked a little more than usual. I wanted to have knee replacement and get on with my life.

I got a referral for a knee surgeon who was supposed to be “the best” in the valley. What didn’t realize was that lot’s of other issues can occur after surgery; but I was about to find out.

On the day of scheduled surgery I was in the pre-op room after having a spinal block when they came in and announced that the AC wasn’t acting right in the operating room and we would have to reschedule for the next week. OK, that was fine, but guess what, I couldn’t move for eight hours until the feeling came back into my legs and other essential parts.

After making new arrangements for family members to help, since it was summer vacation time, I returned a week later. Afterwards I found out that I didn’t have the normal Aqua style bandage on the stitches that can be showered with, I was informed that I had the old style dressing that had to  be changed twice a day and by the way, “when we ripped off some tape in the operating room we ripped off a chunk of skin, so that has to be dealt  with separately!

I was expecting to be out and about in two weeks like my other knee surgery, but nobody told me that twelve years makes a big difference! I was walking fine for a couple of days and then I developed a PINCHED NERVE in my back and couldn’t move without stabbing pain. After accepting the generous help of family and close friends, I realized that I couldn’t impose on them forever and I turned to an agency for round the clock help. Let me just say here that some of the ladies were very good, and some were very bad!

During the month of August I had a trip to Emergency for painful stomach that evidently couldn’t take all the stress and new medications. The following day I had a trip to the emergency again with a new, very strange pain gripping my chest that I thought was a heart attack. The 6 or 7 Paramedics stood watching while a young member of their team tried to insert a needle into my arm. I looked around in time to see blood spurting across my bed. Nice to know this is how the new kid get to practice! The heart was fine, but the stomach doctor wants more tests!

After a Cat scan for the stomach in the hospital they discovered that I also have a Compression Fracture in my back. No one knows where I got it. Couldn’t possibly be when they pick you up to do the Cat scan and PLOP you down. So now I’m told to take it even easier than I was.

Did I mention that I had a couple of emergency visits from the plumber with everything backing up in the shower , toilet and washer.

So can we all agree? The next time  someone mentions Surgery, let’s all get together and NOT GO!

“Not so far apart”

By

Gerry Niskern

Have you had your car tires rotated lately? Takes a while, doesn’t it?   Last week, after a long wait, I attempted to chat with another woman.

“There’s fresh coffee over there,” I remarked as I joined her.

“I don’t drink coffee,” was her terse reply.

Fine. I returned to my paper. Later I noticed her examining the carpet under our feet. Soon we were discussing floorcovering. The wear and tear by grandkids. Ah…..Today’s children.  She had twenty grandchildren.  I had three.

It’s not easy for parents or kids these days, we both agreed. Our instant rapport didn’t seem to call for introductions.

“You know, it didn’t take much to entertain us when I was a kid,” she said. “We put on our bathing suits and played in the water when they flooded East Lake Park.”

“I remember splashing through the irrigation water at the state capital,” I chimed in. We realized we both were kids in the 40’s in Phoenix. She went to Booker T. Washington and I attended Jackson and Adams schools. Carver High for African-American kids was her alma mater and mine was Phoenix Union. Her family lived at 16^th Street and Jefferson. My home was on 17^th Avenue and West Madison. Only thirty-three blocks, but worlds apart.

“We rode the streetcar uptown to the movies on Sunday,” I reminisced.                    “So did we,” she laughed, “but only if we had attended church in the morning.”

“Really! My Dad had the same rule”

While we waited for our cars, we discovered we agreed on many things.  The standard of living has changed.  It’s difficult to monitor television after school when both parents have to work to make ends meet.  Back then, when we wanted to go to the movies all our parents had to worry about was if they could afford the dime admission, not what the rating was. Today’s kids are saturated with violence on the tube and at the flicks. They’re becoming hardened to the idea of death.

“The boys all carried pocket knives when I was a girl. The Boy Scout knives were accepted. Parents didn’t give it a second thought,” I reminisced.

“Yes,” she acknowledged, “But many of the kids that are carrying a weapon now days have an intent. It’s not the same.”

“I lost a grandson,” she said suddenly. “He was killed in his neighborhood. I believe if he had stayed with his daddy when his parents were divorced, he would still be alive today. Children need a strong role model, someone special they can look up to!”

“I agree.” I said. “It’s hard for parents to teach them what’s really important.”

“There’s one way that I know,” she volunteered. “We have a family meeting once a month. We discuss anything that’s troubling one of the family, young or old. They need a sounding board and we provide it. If one of the children needs traveling money to participate in a school event, I tell them, I want ten or twenty dollars from each of you. You can spare it. He needs our support.”

“Good idea,” I replied. “My family works hard to maintain family traditions on holidays. We concentrate on those games that involve everyone, from ages five to eighty-five. Generations communicate and it’s good fun competing and laughing together.”

My car was finished first and as I shook hands with my new friend I was thinking, “Sixteenth Street and Seventeenth Avenue wasn’t so far apart after all.”

“Imagine your home surrounded by fire!

By

Gerry Niskern

Every year the firefighters in our valley brace themselves for the Independence Day celebrations. When Fourth of July approaches and the desert grasses bake to a brittle brown, they can count on small wildfires set by firecrackers.

I’ll never forget sight of a raging fire that surrounded our home a few years ago.  Our home wasn’t the only one in danger. Some young adults at our own pool party were the ones who started the blaze. Not on purpose, of course. But then, it never is, is it?

These young fellows all grew up in Arizona and had felt deprived because, at that time, our state legislators had wisely banned the sale of fireworks to the public. They bought rockets out of state.

As the sky grew dark that Fourth of July evening, their first rocket filled the sky with bursts of red, white, then blue stars. From a seemingly safe, sand-filled desert wash down below our house the second rocket rose majestically.  The third lifted off with the usual speed then suddenly plummeted straight down the other side of the mountain.

One of the guys raced up the road to the house at top of the mountain and down the other side. He found the smoldering tiny fire that had started when the defective rocket hit the grassy hillside. He tried to snuff the fire. Then, all at once, an updraft pushed the flames towards him. He stumbled backwards as the fire raced upward, singeing the hair on his legs.

“Call the fire department,” he screamed. “It’s spreading fast” He turned on the neighbor’s garden hose on top the mountain, and a pitiful stream of water tricked out. There is not a lot of water pressure when you live on top. Panic was beginning to set in, but soon everyone was grabbing beach towels, soaking them in the pool and racing back up the mountain to beat out the flames.

The firemen arrived and but couldn’t get their fire truck up the steep drive. They finally hiked on up with portable equipment on their back.  The slippery shale formation on the steep mountain made it difficult to keep their footing as they worked to put out the flames skittering through the brush tops.

The waves of heat were overwhelming. Wind gusts stoked the tinder provided by dry leaves, bone dry twigs and dead branches.  The fire sped towards the houses that ringed the bottom of the mountain as those homeowners worked desperately with their more abundant water supply.

“We sure want to thank you folks for helping us put out the fire tonight,” one fireman said when it was over. He pushed his helmet back from a face etched with grimy patterns of exhaustion. “ I’ve never seen a group pitch in and work so furiously, especially all you young people.” he continued. Our (fireworks committee) couldn’t look him in the eye.

The next morning, the black remains of mature Paloverde trees stood in mute testimony of the near tragedy on the scorched desert mountain. It was three or four years before enough green foliage allowed the small desert animals to return.

“Scents of Summer”

By

Gerry Niskern

Are you planning a trip back home this summer? Are you going to visit family and friends, or is your trip really about capturing the memories of “the good old summertime?”

While walking past a newly moved lawn the other day, it occurred to me that the charisma of summertime is all in the smell. Think about it. Does that fragrance of freshly cut lawn remind you of rolling down grassy banks with your cousins amid peals of laughter? Or perhaps the aroma of grass was mingled with the scent of the dust freshly watered down for the first pitch in your baseball game. You can smell it now, can’t you?

After the game nothing was better than the tangy citrus scent of cold lemonade unless it was the first icy gulp after a hot game.

If you grew up here in the valley, surely you remember the aroma

the cantaloupe sheds out on Grand Ave as you drove past this time of year. How long since  cantaloupes in the supermarket smelled like that?

Speaking of melons there used to a family on West Jefferson, around llth Avenue, that sold the best watermelons in the valley. They kept them cold in large soda pop coolers. After much thumping and checking for sugar spots, your mother selected her melon.  They always plugged it for her. No need. They were all winners. Everyone gathered around the table at home. When she slid the knife into the dark rind, the melon split apart with a loud crack releasing the familiar sweet aroma.  It was heaven.

The fragrance of honey suckle and roses mingled with the ripe figs in our neighborhood. When the temperature hovered at 115, the smell of hot tar in the asphalt while we were bike riding was even stronger than the pungent odor of the Tamarisk trees as we relaxed on a wide limb while cooling off in the shade of the branches.

Summertime always sent older sisters out into the back yard seeking a tan. Soon the exotic smell of coconut oil rose from warm bodies. Inside the house the fresh, clean cooler pads made from shredded aspen wood meant summer was here.

Saturday brought the scorch of hot iron on the damp cloth as mom pressed dad’s pants for Sunday church. If you were allowed to go downtown on Saturday, the candy counters at Newberrys or Woolworth on Washington beckoned with chocolate aroma. And if that didn’t take your quarter, then the Carmel corn shop on Monroe tried.

The odor of cigars wrinkled your nostrils if you stepped into the lobby of the Adams hotel, just for a peek, of course. A trip past the Chinese Green Dragon that emitted the wonderful aroma of onions and spices on East Jefferson wasn’t on the way to anything, but the giant green neon dragon was fascinating to watch.

If the movie theatre was your destination, the smell of freshly popped corn beckoned.

Sunday afternoon meant family picnic time at Riverside Park down on South Central Avenue. The swimming pool was great. Then again, wading through the footbath that reeked with the smell of heavy chlorine you were required to walk through before entering the pool was gross. After a cool swim, the sputtering and popping of roasting hot dogs mingled with the vinagery smell of Mom’s potato salad. We washed it all down with a bottle of Barq’s, root beer, orange or strawberry.

The summer week was complete.

REMEMBERING ONE FATHER

By

Gerry Niskern

When I was ten years old I saw a boy walking past our new Arizona home. He was whistling a catchy tune. He had black wavy hair and wore a funny hat covered with button pins, Years later that young man became the father of my children.

I asked my husband what he had taught his kids.  “Nothing, that I can think of,” he replied.

Monday’s Child, started out by taking anything apart that had nuts and bolts and threads. Sooner or later his dad had to teach him how to put things back together. “Right-tighty” and “Lefty-Lucy” was the motto.  They shared the love of building and mechanics. Dad taught him to start a nail straight. “He also taught me at Bob’s Big Boy that Thousand Island dressing goes great on hamburgers”

Thursday’s Child remembers dad teaching her how to ride her first bike. She got the blue Schwin  for Christmas when she was six.  He ran along beside it , ready to grab because her feet couldn’t touch the ground.

“Dad taught me how to play jacks. He was really good at it. And best of all, he took us shopping at Christmas time for mom’s gift. One present in particular was a matching silk turquoise gown and robe with gold embroidered trim. Great shopping impressed me!”

Tuesday’s Child says “Dad taught us how to play poker. He also gave me a respect for the beauty of nature even though I used to hate it when dad tied up the TV with nature shows. He also taught me how to walk through life without prejudice and a natural sense of equality between the sexes.”

They all remember the whole family playing hide and seek in the house and dad putting them up in the linen closet where mom didn’t look. In those days they got piggyback rides to bed. If they talked him into playing his accordion, bedtime was later.

I’m guessing that the things most people remember their dad teaching them are similar. Not how to make a million dollars or discover a cure for a disease, just the everyday little things that kids need to know.

It turns out that that kid with the funny hat covered with pins was pretty knowledgeable about a lot of subjects. Who knew?

REMEMBERING ONE FATHER

By

Gerry Niskern

When I was ten years old I saw a boy walking past our new Arizona home. He was whistling a catchy tune. He had black wavy hair and wore a funny hat covered with button pins, Years later that young man became the father of my children.

I asked my husband what he had taught his kids.  “Nothing, that I can think of,” he replied.

Monday’s Child, started out by taking anything apart that had nuts and bolts and threads. Sooner or later his dad had to teach him how to put things back together. “Right-tighty” and “Lefty-Lucy” was the motto.  They shared the love of building and mechanics. Dad taught him to start a nail straight. “He also taught me at Bob’s Big Boy that Thousand Island dressing goes great on hamburgers”

Thursday’s Child remembers dad teaching her how to ride her first bike. She got the blue Schwin  for Christmas when she was six.  He ran along beside it , ready to grab because her feet couldn’t touch the ground.

“Dad taught me how to play jacks. He was really good at it. And best of all, he took us shopping at Christmas time for mom’s gift. One present in particular was a matching silk turquoise gown and robe with gold embroidered trim. Great shopping impressed me!”

Tuesday’s Child says “Dad taught us how to play poker. He also gave me a respect for the beauty of nature even though I used to hate it when dad tied up the TV with nature shows. He also taught me how to walk through life without prejudice and a natural sense of equality between the sexes.”

They all remember the whole family playing hide and seek in the house and dad putting them up in the linen closet where mom didn’t look. In those days they got piggyback rides to bed. If they talked him into playing his accordion, bedtime was later.

I’m guessing that the things most people remember their dad teaching them are similar. Not how to make a million dollars or discover a cure for a disease, just the everyday little things that kids need to know.

It turns out that that kid with the funny hat covered with pins was pretty knowledgeable about a lot of subjects. Who knew?

Instant Genealogy

By

Gerry Niskern

It’s that time of the year again; the holidays. Families will be criss crossing the country, going back home.

The truth is, there is something everyone will look forward to more than Grandma’s cooking.  That’s the sharing of family stories.

I recall as a toddler, standing around my Austrian grandma’s kitchen and listening to her chuckles and chatter with cousins visiting from Europe. They were having a good time reminiscing.  I couldn’t understand a word they were saying, except for my grandma’s one and only  English phrase,  “Damn right!”

Years later, I was a teenager when relatives visited my parents out here in Arizona. My first reaction was, “I don’t have time for these people. I don’t really know them anyway.” But before I knew it, I was hanging around the dining room table late into the evening laughing at the stories being recalled. I was amazed to learn that my very proper daddy had burned down the family garage when he was four years old…and he couldn’t tell his mother what he’d done because he still couldn’t talk.  After all, my aunt explained, “he was the baby of our family and he didn’t have to talk.”

Years later, after my husband’s parents were gone,  some cousins stopped at our house to visit. Our kids learned a thing or two about their dad’s childhood.  They couldn’t believe that when their daddy was about five years old he was allowed to go badger hunting with his older cousins and their pack of greyhounds in west Texas. According to the story, “he was talked into sitting on top of one badger hole and another little cousin was told to sit on another hole. That strategy was supposed to slow the badger down when it came out, and the older boys could shoot it. There was one problem. The badger just about scratched the gullible five year old to pieces trying to get away.”

Our nephews, who were always being lectured by their dad about the dangers of smoking, loved the story about their daddy caught sitting behind a chair puffing on his uncle’s cigar every chance he got, when he was only two years old

As the years go by, everyone, if we’re lucky, will have more and more of these family interludes in our life.  All these stories affirm that we are indeed a family connected and the laughter is the catalyst that holds the clan together. The kids take it all in and come to realize that when they were growing up, mom and dad weren’t perfect, in fact, even a little naughty sometimes. That’s good for everyone. It kind of levels the playing field a little, doesn’t it?

“8^th grade graduation debate”

By

Gerry Niskern

“Adams we sing to thee,

School that we love,

Let our voices ring out clearly.

To the skies above”

            Those were the words we sang as my 8^th grade graduation class marched into the auditorium at Adams School one morning in May of l946.

Much has changed since then.  As those students went on to high school, college, marriage and raised families, many of our social trends changed too.

The more rapidly our society became affluent, the ways in which we honored our 8^th grade graduates grew more elaborate. Parents gradually went overboard.

The ceremonies became more elaborate in most schools with expensive suits for the boys. The girls tottered across the stage in high heels matching $200 dresses.  There were limos ordered to transport the graduates to their parties in many areas.

I’ll be the first to admit, years later , as the parent of a middle school graduate, I was as guilty of succumbing to neighborhood peer pressure as anyone else. When our first child graduated from middle school, we were living in an affluent California neighborhood. My daughter and I spent hours shopping for the perfect dress and then, of course,  she had to have her hair done. Next we found out that “everyone’s parents were taking the graduates out to a special dinner before the ceremony”. Needless to say, our budget did not match the norm at that school!

That’s how it starts. Everyone’s doing it.

Later there was a move by the Arizona state lawmakers to prevent school districts from issuing certificates of 8^th grade graduation. There was concern that with the elaborate celebrations the kids will get the idea that their education is finished.  The lawmakers also felt that immigrant families need to be reminded that education is not complete at 8^th grade. They need to pursue higher education.

Perhaps the legislators will also reconsider the law they passed this year ruling that “Dreamers”, no matter how many years they attended school here or regardless of scholastic achievements, had to pay “out of state” tuition at our universities? How encouraging is that?

Let’s not lose sight of one fact that graduating from 8^th grade has always been a sense of accomplishment; 8 years of classes, homework and test were completed!

That class of mine that marched into the auditorium of Adams School years ago singing the school song was accompanied on two pianos by two girls from our class. We girls wore dresses we had labored over in Home EC class. Identical pattern, but  a choice of pastel eyelet material.  The boys wore dress pants and good shirts.

When the ceremony was over, a group of us, boys and girls, trooped several blocks west to our primary school, Jackson, to say hello to our former teachers. We stopped by one fellow’s house and his mom took snapshots. At the next stop, My mother threw together  some sandwiches for my  unexpected crowd. Then off we went downtown to the movies.

In other words, we made our own celebration, the best kind.